TITLE : I’m Judging you the do better manual
Author : Luvvie Ajayi
“Some people will say, “Only God can judge me.” I’m here to say, “Well, until He gives His final judgment, here’s some of mine.”
You have all attended those family meetings with aunties silently side eyeing you for your petty. If you haven’t then at least you’ve seen it in a movie. Luvvie Ajayi is your favorite auntie wrapped in humour. She says all the things you want to say but are not brave enough to. You know that auntie everyone loves to hate because she says out loud the things people only want to gossip about? (yes). She is the side eye sorceress and so expect to be enchanted into doing better.
“I’m judging you the do better manual” is a necessary book. It is a reminder to do better in a world that has normalised a lot of things that we ought to be ashamed of.
The book explores her personal commentary on race, religion, feminism, sex tapes, obnoxious use of social media and rape culture among others.
You’d expect that as Luvvie drags us she is seated high up on her white horse sipping on a well brewed chai but far from it. She is clear that she has done some of the things for which she is asking us to do better.
The book is divided into four broad sections : life, culture, social media and fame.
The tone sets off with a tinge of pettiness and humour but as you delve deeper you stumble upon more serious conversation. Consider this a manual to help you “get a bit of common sense and some behavior as you navigate today’s hyperobsessions with pop culture, social-media sharing, and outright navel-gazing.”
Luvvie wants to know why you should suck so much at friendship and calls you out on “Baehood gone bad.” I personally enjoyed reading these two chapters because count me in when a buffet of petty is being served.
She is also judging you for uploading the picture of your dead grandma in a casket on facebook and turning your social media into a soap opera.
I loved that she literally gave a master class on how to use the internet. From the constant misuse of hashtags, fake news, obnoxious social media ettiquett and how not to be a bleeding heart on facebook.
Luvvie is witty and funny and her use of metaphors and words is a breath of fresh air. A salad can taste like the tears of dissapointed ancestors and human beings can definitely be more shortsighted than bats in the daytime.
She shares her views from the stand of a Nigerian immigrant woman living in America and her dramatic personality is littered allover the book.
I love that she extensively wrote about rape culture, body shaming, skin bleaching, sex tapes and (Un) reality television.
The chapter of the book on fame and our obsession with megalomania hits close to home because we have all seen it. From the internet culture of dishonesty to the endless quest for validation and the different kinds of big wigs on the internet.
By the time you put down this book your heart is soaked in judgement because she tackles most of the aspects of 21st century morals and behaviour. Her writing doesn’t seem to be for any particular audiences. It’s more like “if the shoe fits, wear it.” Her writing style is simple to understand and engaging so you don’t have to carry your thesaurus to this reading party.
It’s probably already clear I enjoyed reading this book. I believe it is a perfect conversation starter and hopefully as you read the book it helps you question your privilege and view of the world. At the end of the day, we all need to do better.
Have you read this book? How did you find it? Please share your thoughts with me in the comment section
Luvvie Ajayi is a Nigerian author, speaker, and digital strategist.
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